No, really... seriously... don't be angry. It's not allowed. Society won't accept it.
When did it become so taboo to be angry about something? I don't mean VIOLENT... I just mean 'angry'. If you say you're 'angry' people flip out and assume you're going to pull out a shotgun and start blasting away. That's not 'angry', that's 'psycho'.
The absolute most you can get away with in day-to-day circles is 'upset.' But 'upset' isn't always particularly accurate. I equate 'upset' with having hurt feelings. And if you say "I'm feeling upset", people tend to react with sympathetic hugs and positive reassurance... which is, of course, the last thing you want when you're angry. If you say you're upset when you're actually angry and someone starts slathering you with weepy new-age hippie psychobabbly bullshit, it just makes you angrier.
The 'politically correct' way to say you're angry is by saying you're 'frustrated'. "I'm not angry at you... I'm just frustrated with the situation." Again, frustration is what I feel when I'm find out that my alarm didn't go off and I have to rush around to make it to work on time. It's not the same as angry.
Generally speaking, if someone says they're 'frustrated' with you, it means they're angry as hell at you.
When did we all become so afraid of our emotions? Life is a rollercoaster ride and we should embrace the fact that from time to time we're going to feel truckloads of different emotions. If we were happy all the time, life would be profoundly boring.
We're all so petrified of hurting each others' feelings... everyone's walking on eggshells... all forms of expression are stifled by this subliminated requirement not to offend anyone.
It's very... frustrating.
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Not only do I agree, but I think it actually relates to my posting today, because emotions are the cause of this whole new movement to send babies to psychiatrists. Babies shouldn't cry, toddlers shouldn't throw tantrums - basically, we should all just be happy-go-lucky sheep and never ever create waves.
I love my emotions. They remind me of what's important.
I enjoy being angry because usually, once I've calmed down, my priorities have been straightened out again and usually I realize that I'm a pretty lucky girl. Had I not gone through the whole angry bit, I wouldn't have gained anything and would likely have less appreciation for all the things that DON'T make me angry - like my wonderfullest fiance and our freakishly adorably puppy. Although admittedly I don't think I could appreciate them any less, but that's not the point.
The point is that emotions are GOOD. Emotions - CARING is what brings about change - and change is often very very good.
John,
....i'm upset that you're frustrated. But don't be angry. Let go of your anger and your journey to the dark side will be complete.
... but seriously. I totally agree with you.
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